Confidence is all about having self-assurance as well as certainty. When you have conviction in something, you believe in wholeheartedly. Your confidence shines through for all to see in your appearance, the way you stand.
Do You Believe In Yourself?
I hope you do. If you don’t, you should. I hope by the end of this post, you have the tools to work on your self-confidence. It can change many things. Like getting the job you want, because the employer sees you believe in yourself because your confidence is shining through, they feel it a good idea to trust you with the job they have at hand.
As you get to know yourself, who you really are, then you know your strengths as well as your weakness. It is your weakness that you will need to work on to keep your confidence high. However, in the meantime, you can use your strengths to help your weakness to balance out yourself. Allow yourself to be confident even when you don’t feel it. Always remember you are valuable to not only yourself but others as well. Learning to love yourself, you will gain the level of confidence that can rule the world. You know your worth, what your valve is, how you can use it, plus what you can do with it. You can change lives. Please, don’t get so confident that you get cocky. Remember, there are others out there finding their way. Don’t tear someone down to build yourself up. That isn’t being confident it’s mean.
Do You Lack Confidence?
It is easy to have a lack of confidence, which can stem from your financial status, education, appearance, fear, or insecurities. You’ll need to figure out what area it is that affects you from being confident? Then you need to take steps to face it head-on, to squash it like a bug.
If it stems from fear, then you have to spear it head-on, tackle that fear until you no longer are afraid. No, it’s not an easy task. I have a fear of speaking in front of people. It’s like I get tongue-tied, yet it seems I am always finding myself in this situation. So, I had to grab the bull by the horns and do something about it, which means doing more public speaking. That way, the next time I have to speak publicy, I am confident because I know I am getting better each time. Also, my friend made me realize I did better than I thought I had. Though I was shaking like a leaf, it didn’t show in my voice.
Negative Thoughts Will Kill Your Self-Confidence
The best way to get rid of negative thoughts is by replacing them with positive ones. That old saying the good always conquers evil. The same goes for your thoughts. When you have positive thoughts, you are more confident. You have to stop dwelling on the negative. As soon as you see your thoughts drifting toward the negative, quickly think of something positive about yourself.
Remind yourself you are human; we all make mistakes. However, the last mistake doesn’t need to define you as a person. Learn from that mistake to improve yourself, making you more confident. Do things to build your self-esteem; doing this will also build up your confidence. Don’t let anyone belittle you nor you belittle yourself, this only tears you down by the negativity. If you don’t get the job, don’t fret. It doesn’t mean you are a failure. It means you weren’t meant to be in that job. Everything happens for a reason. If you lose your job, you’re not a failure. It means there is something better coming your way. There is a positive for every negative thing.
You don’t want to allow yourself to dwell on the negative it will only bring you down, allowing depression to set in getting you nowhere, but at the bottom of a hole. Once you are here, it is hard to dig out of the bottom of the hole, because you have to change the way you think. So, don’t allow yourself to fall into the hole to start with, by keeping positive.
We all fall on hard times, some worse than others. I will share with you I have been homeless. I have lost everything to have to start over. The only thing that got me through these hard times—was having a positive attitude. I will not lie. Sometimes it was hard to stay positive. However, I knew where letting the negativity would take me if I let it take over.
There are people in this world that make it their mission to bring people down. You will want to stay away from these toxic people. They will suck the positive essence out of you, feeding upon it, leaving only the negativity within you, destroying your hopes and dreams.
Embrace The Positive
Welcome positive thoughts with open arms, allow them to strengthen your spirit. Think positively, if you have to place positive quotes throughout your home or workplace. Whenever you feel down, stop take time to read them, get your positivity flowing again. Do things that make you feel good and make you happy. Allow yourself to think good thoughts, own them. It will not only keep you sane, but it makes a happier you. When you are delighted, your confidence shines bright.
How Do You Carry Yourself?
When you have embraced the level of confidence that you have sought, it will show. Your appearance will change, your deminer, you’ll walk with an upright stride, shoulders back, and head held high. It will be visible to everyone, making you stand out in the crowd.
Your Speech Will be Different.
There will be no fear when you talk. You will project yourself out to others who will stop and take notice. People will now hear what it is, you say. No longer will you be lurking in the background, instead you’ll want to be center stage. You will look someone in the eye, without hesitation, because you know you are their equal.
Having Pride in Your Appearance.
Meaning you will start doing regular exercise routines to help elevate stress. Also, as your body becomes more fit, you will feel the confidence within you grow.
You’ll want to surround yourself with these people to keep your confidence level high. It doesn’t mean you can spend time with those less confident. Just don’t lose yourself in their negativity. You might even be a role model to help others build their confidence.
These tips are to help you become more confident. If you can’t do it, fake it until you make it. Always respect yourself, don’t let others bring you down. Important note: If you don’t know something specific, especially in a job interview where the person is an expert, don’t lie, it only makes you look bad, depleting your confidence within yourself and their trust in you.
I hope this post is helpful. Be true to yourself, and you won’t go wrong.
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Karen Carnahan 